Sadly, these days I see too many males and too few men around me. What I see are people who are lost, with no ideals or morals.

There is too much focus on money and progress but too little attention to ethics. These so-called men are without manners and do not treat women as their equal. Once they quarrel with a woman, they lose all control. These arguments turn into abuse. At first, they begin with hurtful comments and later turn into words and expressions of hate.

It's a vicious cycle - the man asking for forgiveness and showering the woman with gifts, and as soon as he gets angry and loses control, it happens all over again. 

As these relationships progress, the abuse worsens. They escalate from the verbal to the physical. The woman becomes a punching bag for the man's frustrations, and will blame all of his failures on her. 

Males need to be taught as children how to treat others with respect. You don't touch a woman, unless it's to caress her.

Since I've been in China, I've seen young men manhandling their women, even punching them in the face. I once had to stop a student who was pulling his girlfriend's hair and forcing her to do something she didn't want to. 

Not all Chinese are like this, and I believe that most would never abuse their wives and girlfriends. But at what point do we as a society stop this kind of dangerous behavior? 

Parents need to teach their children how to behave properly in the world. 

Teachers too have to teach respect among the genders. The problem is becoming more noticeable.

Stories are abound; like the girl who was being publicly ostracized and chastised by her college group until a foreigner intervened to stop the verbal abuse. 

Recently, a colleague of mine had to yell from his apartment building at 3  am,  as a student was abusing his girlfriend.

The student told the teacher to "F*** off! It's my girlfriend!"

When several teachers got involved, he eventually stopped.

Men need to learn to control their impulses and to respect women. 

We need them as much as they need us to balance our society in love, nurture and emotional stability.

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